“Families are the compass that guides us. They are the inspiration to reach great heights, and our comfort when we occasionally falter.” – Brad Henry
When I published the first Goals Journal, my girls were in elementary school, and my son had already moved out and began living on his own. If you asked me then, I would’ve told you that I was an expert at family goal setting and achieving. We had weekly family meetings, weekly family dinners, and family fun nights on Fridays. We were nowhere near the television series The Cosby Show, but we did try to purposely spend quality time with each other and support each other’s goals and dreams.
It’s an understatement to say that today’s family is busy. Individual members spend most of their time working, going to school, and engaging in extracurricular activities. Unfortunately, most of these responsibilities and pursuits seem to always compete with the family’s face time, which leaves little room to focus on goals as a unit.
Because of how I grew up, I was determined to stay involved with my family. As soon as both of my girls graduated high school, though, they started to work and develop new friendships. And when they began college, our entire family dynamic changed dramatically. Initially, I was frustrated and felt that I was failing. But I came to realize that we could still be close, but in a new way. Now I completely understand why Thanksgiving and Christmas are so important. They become the rare opportunities that families are committed to coming together. Even still, I want to encourage you not to let these holidays, and your uncle’s funeral, be the only time all year you connect with your family.
Perhaps you are single or your family is distant, or separated. Don’t let this stop you from setting goals in this area of your life. You can establish what types of relationships you want to have with your in-laws, aunts, uncles, nieces, nephews, etc. You may also think about how you’d like to be supportive by asking them what their goals are. You can act as a coach to encourage them.
Use the month of September to create the goals you have for your family.